The Relationship Gua:
Supporting the Main Woman in Feng Shui

The Relationship Gua

In Feng Shui, the Relationship Gua is often associated with love and romance. But like so many areas of the Feng Shui Bagua, there are deeper layers to explore.

Traditionally, this area also represents the “Main Woman” — the primary feminine or matriarchal energy within the home.

This could be the mother, wife, daughter, or another woman who holds that primary feminine role. And if you are a woman who lives on your own, this energy represents you.

That makes the Relationship Gua about much more than romantic partnership. It can also speak to support, receiving, self-worth, nourishment, connection, and the feminine energy within the home.

What Is the Relationship Gua?

If you’re not familiar with the Bagua, it is an energetic map used in Feng Shui that represents different areas of life, including wealth, career, relationships, family, and more.

What often surprises people is that the Bagua has many additional layers. Its areas also correspond with family members, parts of the body, elements, and other energetic associations.

It’s one of the things I love most about Feng Shui — there is always another layer to explore.

For the Main Woman, the Relationship Gua can relate to:

Feeling supported in life
Emotional nourishment
Receiving, rather than always giving
Self-worth and value
Receptivity, grace, intuition, and inner strength
Relationships of many kinds — not only romantic ones

In Feng Shui, receiving is associated with yin energy, while giving and outward action are associated with yang energy. We need both.

But for someone who spends a great deal of time nurturing, helping, giving, or taking care of everyone else, this area can offer an interesting question:

How well are you allowing yourself to receive?

Where Is the Relationship Gua?

I practice a modern, Western style of Feng Shui, which means we orient the Bagua from the entrance of the home or space.

Standing at your front door and looking inward, the Relationship Gua is located in the upper right section of the Bagua.

Think of dividing your home into a three-by-three grid. The Relationship Gua occupies the upper right one-ninth of that grid.

And don’t worry about getting the one-ninth absolutely perfect. We’re working with energy, not performing surgery.

Once you locate this area in your home, take a little walk over there and simply notice how it feels.

Ask yourself:

Does this area feel peaceful?
Does it feel supported?
Is it inviting?
Would I want to spend time here?
Does it feel nurturing?

If the answer is yes, wonderful. Keep up the good work.

If not, it may be time to give this part of your home a little TLC.

Signs Your Relationship Gua May Need Some Attention

Look around the space with fresh eyes.

You might notice:

Clutter or storage piles
Broken items waiting to be repaired
Unfinished projects
Harsh or aggressive imagery
Lonely imagery or themes of isolation
Items connected to difficult memories

None of these things means something terrible is going to happen. That is not how I practice Feng Shui.

Instead, think of them as opportunities to ask whether your surroundings are reflecting and supporting the way you want to feel.

Bring in the Energy of Partnership

Because this is the Relationship Gua, we often like to incorporate pairs in this area.

That might mean:

Two candles
Two pillows
Two flowers
Artwork representing pairs, unity, connection, partnership, or support

The symbolism doesn’t need to be overly literal. Choose things that feel beautiful and meaningful to you.

And perhaps avoid putting your mother-in-law in the guest room if it happens to be located here.

Just sayin’.

Add Grounding Earth Energy

The Feng Shui element associated with the Relationship Gua is Earth.

Earth energy brings a sense of grounding, stability, nourishment, and support — all beautiful qualities for this area of the home.

You can incorporate Earth energy through things such as:

Ceramic bowls or pottery
Stone, clay, brick, or terracotta objects
Crystals such as quartz, smoky quartz, rose quartz, tiger’s eye, or stones in earthy shades
Square shapes and patterns
Earthy colors such as beige, brown, yellow, and warm blush tones

Containers can be especially lovely here. In addition to the ceramic material representing Earth, there is something beautifully symbolic about an object that holds and supports.

Create a Softer, More Nurturing Feeling

If the space feels very yang, busy, or harsh, consider bringing in more yin qualities.

Cozy textures, soft fabrics, comfortable seating, gentle lighting, and other sensory details can change the way a room feels.

You might also experiment with grounding scents such as cedarwood, sandalwood, or vetiver, or play music that creates a calm, meditative atmosphere.

The goal isn’t to follow a checklist of Feng Shui “rules.”

It is to create a space that feels supportive to you.

Let Your Home Support You, Too.

We’ve all heard the reminder to put on our own oxygen mask first.

I think our homes can become a kind of energetic oxygen mask.

When the person who nurtures everyone else also feels supported, that energy can ripple outward into the rest of the home.

And gentlemen, this isn’t one to skip. Supporting feminine energy within a home can contribute to a greater sense of nourishment, connection, and balance for everyone who lives there.

So take a look at your Relationship Gua.

Does it reflect support? Connection? Nourishment? Receiving?

And perhaps most importantly:

Does the person who spends so much time supporting everyone else feel supported there, too?

If you’d like help creating a home that feels more aligned with and supportive of the life you want to live, I offer Feng Shui consultations both virtually and in person.

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